Pray for my enemies, HUH?

Bless those who curse you , pray for those who mistreat you Luke 6:28.

Ya OK, that’s OK for me to tell others but when someone does that to my family, my husband it ain’t that easy! I’m going to tell you right now this is not going to be a feel good blog, I ‘m going raw right now. This is very fresh in my heart and mind.  As some of you know my man is a pastor and I love being a pastors wife, but I am  no more spiritual than the rest of you that come to church. I sin, I fall, I hurt, I am human, and when someone intentional hurts my man, yep its on!


Now I know the first line of this blog in which I said, I tell others this, I do, and I really mean it, and I know the scripture also, I know the word, but sometimes He has to remind me that I have to turn to Him, when people are just plain ugly.

When I first started to write this, I was very angry and hurt and all the above. I didn’t care about turning the other check, I wanted to slap that cheek! ( I told you this was going to be honest). But since this happened I believe it was a couple of  weeks ago, things have happened. I am not going to tell you that I was all spiritual and the “good Christian” and everything worked out great, and we sang kumbaya. Yeah that didn’t happen.  But God spoke to me through my eldest son, he said,”Mom, I know its hard but pray for her.” I was like who is this kid??? Didn’t he hear what I told him this woman said to his  dad? Yep he did. And so did the Father. He knew, He heard and I’m sure it hurt Him too. But how could I pray for her? Oh sure I could tell my church members to do this, but me? Why should I? Well let me tell you when you say that to the Father He’s gonna tell you why! Because He has forgiven me!

But ,But, But. Yeah that isn’t going to fly, there is no buts in forgiveness. Now you maybe saying, ‘Debbie really is this the first time you’ve had to do this ?’  NOOOO and it never gets easy. I have been hurt by more Christians and their words that anyone else.  But what it does do, is frees me up from holding onto the anger, resentment, bitterness that can and will develop with me. This doesn’t hurt the person who hurt me, it hurts ME!!!

Then there’s this scripture again that God used to smack me ever so loving,  Matt.7:2,  For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Yep this one. I want the Lord and others to judge me with compassion, not anger, and this is exactly how I was not judging this woman. I was angry, hurt, I wanted to tell her off.  Now let me make this very clear, what she did was wrong, rude and just plain mean, but my response needs to be one of forgiveness. God will take care of His own, and of which she is. Daddy knows what happened and I know Daddy will take care of it. I am only responsible for my actions, not how others will respond. Did she ever apologize? NOPE! Will she ever, probably not, but that’s on her, and between her and God. And I know the Father He will deal with it!

So yes my kid knew what he was saying, makes my mothers heart proud that my son knew the word, but had the boldness and love to tell his mother the truth I needed that day. Thank you again Lord for creating in me a clean heart!






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